Busting Out of Perfectionism
“Good enough is good enough. Perfect will make you a big fat mess every time. ” Rebecca Wells
If you are anything like me you’ll have read that quote and nodded in agreement. I would be lying if I said I didn’t fall into the perfection trap. I only have to think of launching this website to think of the pangs of anxiety I experienced because I felt like it needed to be perfect. Right font , great image. Yada, yada…
It’s a hard thing not to strive for perfectionism.
On the one hand it can propel you forward but too much of it and it can leave you feeling like a big, fat mess.
Reaching perfection would mean that we’ve reached an ideal and no one can… that’s the trap.
Worthy of all the good stuff; love, freedom, self-satisfaction.
The implicit notion is that if we are perfect we will automatically gain more love, freedom, acceptance and happiness in our lives. It’s a hard and unsatisfying belief to hold.
With social media and online living we are more connected than before but we are simultaneously at more risk of daily comparison.
We try to contort ourselves into these impossible images that we think we need to be. Psychologists, Paul L. Hewitt and Gordon L. Hewitt have proved that striving for perfectionism has been positively correlated with depression, eating disorders, sexual dysfunction , anxiety and lower self-esteem.
As well as experiencing an increased sense of dissatisfaction with life. Striving for perfectionism will lock you in a perpetuating cycle which will ultimately cause more pain than well-being. So disconnect from this notion of having to be perfect.
The vulnerable bits of our stories are what make us unique and when we start to celebrate them perfectionism no longer has any power over us.
I’d love to hear your stories of how you’ve overcome perfectionism or how you’re currently struggling with it (so that we can bust it!).
Simply leave a comment below.
Onward & Upwards,
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