What I would tell my 20 year old self

What I would tell my 20 year old self- messages in trust by Athena Laz

What I would tell my 20 year old self

  1. Your first business will be a successful sex-toy company. You’ll go on to leave this as you launch athenalaz.com.

  2. It will be wildly liberating and incredibly testing all at the same time.

  3. The love of your life will find you the minute you love YOURSELF so much.  Only someone who values your self-respect will be worthy of your time and when you know this everything will change.

  4. You will burn some bridges and it will be more than okay. In fact, lighting a bridge can be wildly liberating.

  5. Know that powerful boundaries INCREASE your sense of self-balance and self-worth.

  6. Some friends are meant to leave your life and you do not need to invite them back in.

  7. Your core people will always be there. You know who they are and they know who you are.

  8. There is ALWAYS a good reason for champagne.

  9. The braver you become in sharing your truth – your voice – the more the world opens up for you. AND it’s more fun than you would have expected and then fun will become the goal and it feels so good.

  10. Signs and symbols are everywhere – you’ve known this since you were a child. It’s okay to state this aloud as an adult. This does not make you stupid.

  11. Academic circles can be fill of judgement. They can also be profoundly inspiring.  You will LEARN to take what you need and leave the rest.

  12. Self-love is a continual work in progress. It’s much more fun if you don’t make it a chore.

  13. SLEEP is an act of kindness.

  14. Travel and then travel some more.

  15. You will move houses more times than you will be comfortable with.

  16. Your dreams of working independently from anywhere in the world will materialize in ways that your 20 yr self can’t even image. TRUST AND TRUST SOME more then thank yourself for all the hard work you did to get to that point. You FUCKING deserve it.

  17. People would rather see you succeed than fail.

  18. You will collaborate with people who inspire you.

  19. Your life will become an active declaration of joy + spirit.

  20.  You are the leading edge of thought made manifest. What I would tell my 20 year old self- messages in trust by Athena Laz

  21. When you feel stuck – go for a drive. This ALWAYS helps you.

  22. It’s more than okay to go your own way. You thought you needed permission and validation but every day you show yourself that you don’t.  You are more powerful & loving than you thought possible.

  23. Masculine + Feminine – always.

  24. Out of whack is an invitation to step back. Step back willingly rather than being forced into a collision.

  25. Your intuition is one of your greatest gifts. It’s not something that you need to hide.

  26. Not everyone will like you and you will learn to be okay with this.

  27. Your family is always there for you.

  28. You will realize that success for you is when you learn to tolerate stepping into discomfort. You are getting very good at doing this.

  29. The greatest therapeutic gift is recognizing that there is no ”how’ in the process. You can simply step out of an old pattern. You will be so grateful for recognizing this through working with your incredible clients.

  30. Your biggest breakthroughs come to you early in the morning and late at night. Hence, Silence has always been and will always be critical for your well-being.

  31. You will radically change everything you know- multiple times. It’s supposed to be an adventure- remember?

  32. IT JUST GETS BETTER because you know better.

    Athena Laz is the founder of athenalaz.com, where she uses her skill as a licensed psychologist, self-help author & columnist to help others find their inner power.

P.S. I would LOVE to hear what you would tell your 20 year old self. So leave a comment below 🙂

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  1. Meg 4 years ago

    Love this so very much Athena. I would tell my 20 year old self to let go and live like everything isn’t going to be a disaster. Wasted so much time feeling anxious.

  2. Sam Shirley 4 years ago

    Yes ! Yes ! Yes ! I love reading your work Athena. I would tell myself to have more fun. That the hard time’s are never as frequent as the good time’s.

  3. Amanda 4 years ago

    Love that you owned a sex toy company!!

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    Athena Lazarides 4 years ago

    Thanks for sharing Sam – so much time wasted on anxiety and it never helps the outcome anyway! Really learning this in my life.

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    Athena Lazarides 4 years ago

    Me too 🙂 It was online, fun and partially funded me whilst I was training to become a licensed therapist. Beyond grateful !!

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