Self-acceptance VS Self-esteem

how to feel better about yourself by Athena Laz


Hey Athena!

Do you have any tools or tips to increase self-esteem?

Thanks, Fatima.


Dear Fatima,

Yes I do and that is to ditch self-esteem entirely and rather move towards self-acceptance!

Self-esteem is based on a rating system.

Either you feel worthy or unworthy.

Or you have good self-esteem or bad self-esteem.

In other words, you are always rating your value and with it up and down your self-esteem goes.

For example: if your good self-esteem is based on having a great job and you lose that job – out goes your good sense of self-worth.


‘Self-esteem is built on the labels we give ourselves but labelling in itself is unhelpful.’ Athena Laz's Tweet That


If you have a strong sense of self, you understand that your value is intrinsic and you never base your sense of self-worth on anything outside of you. Not your looks, not your relationships, not your money.


‘Unconditional self-acceptance means untangling your self-worth from external measures of your value as a person.’Athena Laz's Tweet That

You have worth because you exist and cultivating who you are without your labels is a great place to start. You can watch the video below where I share more tips and tools to develop more self-acceptance and feel amazing.


5 Steps to Rocking Self-Acceptance

  1. Understand that you cannot and shouldn’t judge the WHOLE of who you are by the labels you place onto yourself.

  2. Recognize global labels for the thinking errors that they are.

  3. All humans are imperfect and that includes you – so stop beating yourself up about the things that you think you could do better.

  4. Work on any shame or guilt associated with the aspects of yourself that you feel are not good enough.

  5. Practice self-care.


Take care,

Athena Laz is the founder of, where she uses her skill as a licensed psychologist, self-help author & columnist to help others find their inner power.




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